Tuesday, January 27, 2015

doin' it right.

I have found that parenting will probably always be hard, just different things will make it this way. Babies like to make it hard by not sleeping through the night,  2 year olds like to throw tantrums, 10 year olds are extra hormonal, and I could probably come up with something for every age.

We have a 10 year old in this house that is bossy and sassy...and is smarter than me, obvs. Boy howdy is it fun! I think we all look forward to Monday's, because we need a break from each other.

The fun thing about parenting is you are constantly learning. Even though I have been a Mom for a decade, I have never had a 10 year old. It is all new to me, we are all just trying to figure out what works. We have lots of hard days, buckets of tears, and plenty of stomping to bedrooms with a nice slam of the door.

Just when I am about to throw in the towel, something good happens. Does this happen to anyone else?

Last Friday I picked up Savannah, and knew right off it had been a bad day. Just like the previous 4 days. 4th grade is hard yo! 

She looked at me and said "Mom, I don't even want to tell you, you are gonna be mad!"

Uh, since I didn't get a phone call from the school, it couldn't be that bad, right?

She proceeds to tell me how they took a timed quiz in class, and when she knew she wasn't going to finish, she copied off of her neighbor.

Is it bad that the first thing I said was..."Well, did you get caught!?"

She then tells me that she didn't get caught, but after she turned her work in, she didn't feel good. She started to get emotional, and had to go and tell the teacher what she had done.

I clarify with her..."So, you told on yourself?"


Did I get mad? Nope, I laughed hysterically thinking my kid told on herself for cheating.
Moral of the story: 

I must be doing something right, even when I feel like I am doing it all wrong. 

Now pass the Coke and chocolate so I can survive the teenage years.


kendahl a. said...

Not to freak you out or anything, but... 13 is SO MUCH HARDER than 10. At least in our household. :\

Sr. Ann Marie said...

You must definitely be doing something right! A child doesn't often learn honesty all by herself! Congratulations!

Emily said...

I love that girl. And you're totally rockin' the parenting, my friend. I'll trade cheating on a timed test in elementary school for the awesomeness I'm dealing with lately...

Cathy said...

I would've told on myself too. You're a great mom, my friend.

Heather said...

I've finally found time to do some blog reading!

I think you should tell her you arent proud of her for cheating but she did the right thing afterwards and you're proud of her for that.

Hormones...yeah they're really fun. I have days where I actively dislike Miss 16 (even though I love her). They test limits, push your buttons and you never know if there will be tears, laughter or anything in between all in a half hour period! Kids will always take it out on those they know will love them unconditionally (just like we sometimes do to our husbands-and apologise for later). I try to remind myself that as an adult, I understand my body so much more than I did in my youth. They aren't going to be horrible forever-most adult women are lovely to be around. We just have to be patient with them and let them adjust and learn how their new system works. In the mean time, send them to LOTS of sleepovers and camps lol.