Wednesday, January 1, 2014

upside down.

December 10th, 2013

We decided to go see Frozen as a family, and were on happy high as we drove home singing all the songs from the sound track. We came home to find fun Christmas boxes on our front porch. I start herding children inside, Paul goes to get the boxes. In the middle of taking shoes off, and starting the Papa Murphy's Pizza...I hear Paul scream from the front sidewalk.

He slipped on the ice, and was holding his leg. A neighbor ran to help, and Paul asked for an ambulance. I was the mean wife, and said suck it up and get him in the car {I have learned I need to work on my compassion!}.  

My sweet neighbors {and friends} took our three littles, and we had a tearful drive to the emergency room. In my head I kept thinking it would be a few hours waiting around, and then we would be on our way. Paul made a few calls to his family, and I made one to Cathy. They all met us at the hospital to help calm us down. Paul got a Priesthood blessing, loads of drugs, a few x rays, and then the wait started. We decided after a couple of hours, I would take Uncle Jackie home to stay with the kids. While Uncle Shane stayed with Paul. 
I wasn't gone for very long, but I wasn't expecting to come back to the ER to find the room empty where Paul had been. After a few questions, I was told he had been admitted and moved to a room. I tried to not freak out, but I knew the news wasn't going to be good. 
I got the news from Uncle Shane...3 breaks. One by his knee, one in his lower leg, and his ankle. Surgery. Days in the hospital. 12 week recovery.

I cried. Paul cried.

Our world had been turned upside down.

Our troops {aka friends and family} rallied around us. Meals, babysitting, cleaning our house, phone calls, emails, texts, sweet messages, anonymous presents left on our doorstep. It is cliche, but we would not have made it without them. 
Every day that I am running on fumes, thinking I can't do it one more second, someone has somehow known I needed a little pick-me-up. Prayers have been heard and answered. 

Our Christmas season was a special one, as we watched so many people serve us in different ways. From Christmas carolers on our doorstep to a tight hug from a friend...my spirit needed it...thank you!!
3 weeks in is it still hard? You betcha, but we are making it. We are taking it one day at a time. I cry every day. Have I learned valuable lessons? Of course. Lessons I needed to learn {although the hard way}. Heeellllo, in almost 15 years of marriage, I have never done the bills. It was long overdue, right?!

As I have taken on the role of Paul, I have a new found respect for him and all he does for our little family. He has taken such good care of me and our children, and I will forever be changed by learning what he does for us. 

It would be nice to have this all behind us, but I am excited to take what I learned from this so far in to the new year.

9 comments:

Amy said...

Thank you for sharing this experience Evonne. You are amazing also!

Cathy said...

You're my hero.

Jaymerz said...

Sending lots of love and hugs, you really are amazing!!

Chris and Paige Evans said...

You have a great attitude about this whole ordeal and I really look up to you. I can't believe so much damage happened from slipping on ice! YIKES! I hope the next 9 weeks fly by.

Jen Stewart said...

Oh man, that's a real doozy! And right before Christmas too. :( I guess this is where you keep telling yourself "I can do hard things". :) Good thing you have so many wonderful people in your life to help you through!

kendahl a. said...

You are seriously amazing, I hope you know that. You can do hard things. I have total faith that you guys will make it through this better than when it all started. If you ever need a break, let me know! If you have time for a manicure or pedicure or *something*, let me know! I mean it.

the nayz said...

I have learned that sometimes the only way to learn something is to go through a hge, blazing neon trial. And, if we were never in need, it would not allow others the opportunity to serve us. Hang in there. We all love you. Let me know if you are needing anything-like more tin foil ;)

Jil ~ said...

So sorry to hear that it's been a tough year-end. Kudos to you for hanging in there. It's the tough things that bless us and that make an impression on our children. You will always remember this Christmas and the blessings that came from it. Good Luck and hope all goes well as the New Year begins.

Emily said...

You are such in inspiration. Granted I wish you didn't have to go through such challenges to be so damn inspiring, but you do it with honesty, determination and humor. xoxo