I had a big day planned for Van and I. We were suppose to have lots of fun girly bonding time, while Paul still is on the mend. We were suppose to go to Tae Kwon Do, play mini golf, shop, and eat lunch at any place that had a play land.
It took a turn for the worst about 30 minutes after leaving the house. Our first stop was Tae Kwon Do. Let's start off by saying that Van has NO problem making friends. We arrived a little early, but Van was enjoying watching the older children spar. She was being a complete angel...until a "friend" showed up. This older friend kept telling Van to come and play. Van asked, I said no, and Van listened.
We are moments away from the Little Dragon class starting. I place Van where I can see her, but she won't be in anyone's way...tell her to stay right there, and then I walk to my seat. When I turn around, Van is no where to be seen. I panic, of course! I frantically run like a mad woman around the building. I can't find her, and I can't see the "friend" either. At this point the Little Dragon class has started. I finally start to ask everyone if they have seen her...one fine gentleman points to a closed door saying "I think that she might be in there." What do you know the little "friend" had taken her in to this room to play!
You should have seen her face when I walked in the room. It was like a deer in the headlights. She knew she was in BIG trouble. My parenting style is very kick back. Paul definitely is the authority in our family. So when I get mad, Van knows it must be really bad.
I don't think that I have ever picked up Van so swiftly, and proceeded to exit the building. I didn't even have to say a word and she was crying. I wonder where she got that trait from?
Van was grounded from Tae Kwon Do today, the TV for a week, oh, and she can't have soda for a week either. I am such a meanie!
When I was having "the talk" with Van, and asked her why she would disobey me like that she said "my friend told me too!" Really! And that little sentence has been stuck in my head all day long.
One of the biggest things that I have wanted to instill in my daughter is to stand up for yourself. Stand up for what you know is right. Stand up for your feelings. Don't be afraid to go against the grain. And then this happened. I am failing as a Mother.
It took me almost 28 years to learn it, because I was not taught at a young age. I will not let this happen. I will change the pattern. We learned a lesson, and it won't be our last.